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My first recorded thoughts...
I just found a (well buried) word doc on my computer. Is a short diary I kept while I was living on Managwhai between September 2004 until April 2005 when I moved to Auckland. I had completely forgotten about it. Check this out!
Friday, October 29 (2004)
"I just finished reading a great book about a lady who was a prostitute in nz for many years, just telling it how it was. Prostitution interests me, always has, ive gone so far as considering it for a career at times. Have never really thought id be sexy enough (or brazen enough) to make a great success of it though, and then the ‘society’ dilemmas would always be an issue. The book certainly gives it added appeal, Id love all of the lessons it could teach me…I read up on my numerology last week and it said part of my life’s quest is to experience many different sorts of relationships, that’s me to a tee."
MSN with a friend last night.
Sally - You called the other day.
Friend - Yeah
Friend - I was stoned and thought I had a good idea.
Sally - :)
Friend - I decided to wait and see if it was still a good idea when I was sober.
Sally - And was it?
Friend - I forgot what it was.
Sally - Oh
I have an Announcement...
...which I’d like feedback on before I make the announcement .
This will be long winded so please bare with me. I have a change in services coming, intended launch mid-next month, and I want reactions. My specific questions to you are at the bottom. Please don’t respond if you don’t read all of this…you will miss important bits!
I didn’t want to make any public mention of my coming changes before launch but, the more I’ve thought about it the more I suspect I’m going to find it hard to explain. I feel I need to know how it is (honestly) received by the reader before I get there.
One vital point before I continue. I’ve been in this business over 4 years now. Ever since the early days I’ve looked forward to the time when I could do my work exactly as I choose. This would happen when a) I no longer relied on / cared about the income, b) the base I had established was reasonably solid and c) I had the confidence to say it out loud.
I’m there!! And its f***ing exciting!
Obviously, anyone who knows me knows I’ve always been pretty staunch on “my way” so may be asking what could possibly be different now? Well, even my way to date has always been with 1.75 eyeballs on what I ultimately wanted to achieve, which was:
Earn credibility.
Earn respect.
Maintain a standard.
Figure out where I fit.
Prove my commitment to all of the above.
I hope I’ve achieved these things to some degree. I believe I have. I’m feeling very strong. I feel like the world can throw anything at me and it’ll just bounce right off! It’s a great place.
My pending changes have had me thinking about assumptions and how far off peoples assumptions are? I would almost put money on; whatever you assume about me...you’re probably wrong. This is partly industry crap, “you’re a hooker so you must be this, this, this and this". Not entirely though. I have a reasonably public profile that likely gives people an “impression". Then again, it could just as easily be the all too common “no one understands me” rubbish that homo sapiens are perpetually prone. Without further ado…
Service change Part 1.
1. From mid next month my rate will be $50 per hour.
2. 6 hours minimum booking will apply (client can book less but the 6hr rate stands).
3. My travel time to and from the booking forms part of the booking.
4. Outcall only (homes welcome, including rural).
5. Very casual. I could easily turn up in my gumboots (slight exaggeration).
6. Here’s the catch…this is effectively a Rub and Tug service. Crass but fundamentally correct. Sex not included. Everything up to that point but not actual intercourse.
Now, I know you’re first thought then was “She’s all fucked up and doesn’t want sex ‘cause it makes her feel dirty and used”. Yes?
NO
I will explain but will start with your WTF is with $50!!?? I’ve never been entirely comfortable with charging. I’ve always felt the pressure of the expectation being paid places on me (as is only right but now I want it gone). I’ve always hated the “he’ll never really know whether I actually like him” thing which never goes away.
$50 per hour, 6 hours minimum with no expectation of sex sets the scene that I want. I will not feel like I’m fleecing him. He is not fantasising about how many times he can cum. I am not feeling the performance pressure I’ve never enjoyed. He is not resenting his now sad savings. I enjoy him knowing he chose this type of service (which is unique).
In saying that…I can be won . I like sex. I rephrase. I like good sex and good orgasms with good people. I like skin, touching skin. I like intimacy. I like affection. I like giving. I like receiving. I like pillow fights. I like spa baths. I like to be seduced. I like to seduce / tease / torment. I want him to know that if we have actual sex it is because everything else worked. If we don’t have sex (there is a very good chance) and it offends him...so be it.
I have never been the girl to say what you wanted to hear just because you wanted to hear it. Definitely not everyones cup of tea! Now I’m adding sex to the same equation.
As it is, there will be plenty of ways to get things “working” than just getting the oral right! Making an effort. Big winner. Thoughtful gift perhaps, home cooked meal, other. Have a sense of humor! Perhaps the money I would “normally” have cost him goes towards something else? Limited only by his (or her) imagination. I will appreciate it.
Why 6 hours? Because a) $300 is worth my while investing the time in getting there and b) I can count on my hands how many bookings in my career have ended on time when they were shorter. Obviously I wouldn’t ever talk about it because clients would come to me with that expectation but; 2 hours become 4, 4 hours become 6, 6 hours become 8. Without fail and without extra payment. Among other things, 6 hours removes all time pressure for us both. If it does end in less, no biggy, it only cost him $300 bucks :D.
Service change Part 2.
How we guarantee sex. You’ll have to come and see me at one of the brothels / agencies I will make myself available at :). WTF!!?? you say again. I spent the first three weeks of my career in a brothel. I enjoyed many elements of it and have, many times, wondered how I could combine my independence with a degree of brothel work. There has been no way I could because a) brothels have issue with girls they can’t control and b) I had a reputation to establish (see “wanted to achieve” list above). I could never have incorporated “brothel” without people making those damned assumptions they can’t help. I also knew (dim witted as too many are and, again, because of assumptions) I wouldn’t be able to make people understand the complete difference between my “Independent service” and my “Brothel service". Brothels have buzzers. I don’t. Brothel girls have multiple clients in a day. Independent Sally doesn’t...just for starters...
Ok then, what has changed? Brothels first of all. New Zealand now has a couple which are thinking outside the square and expanding their horizons. AWESOME. Times are changing and they’re starting to figure it out! Second…I’ve hopefully invested enough time that my reputation is strong enough to hold it’s own. Hopefully those who matter, know enough about me to know this is what I choose because I want it. My Brothel service will be a brothel service! Charged at the brothels rates, buzzers will go off, you will have to share me with others. I don’t expect you’ll believe me (assumptions again), but I have missed this style of service ! Yes, missed it. I hated the buzzers back at Juliettes but I’m covering that base with above mentioned Service Part 1. Best of both worlds!!!
The other change is the time has come to do it my way. I have nothing more to prove. No more points to make. No more agendas to push. There’s no more sucking up required. I have no fear of repercussions. Sorry, I knew this was going to become a book!
After all of that, what feedback do I want? I don’t want to know whether you think it’s all a good idea or not because it doesn’t matter! Completely irrelevant. This isn’t a business decision...this is a what I want decision subject to change whenever I’m so inspired. And it will change because I change (regularly). I want to know whether you get the point? Do you understand what I’m doing and why? Do you understand what I’m offering? Tell me what I’m offering according to how you perceive it. I want your honest, gut reaction, assumptions included. Feel free to ask questions. This is very simply an exercise in showing me whether this explanation works. If it doesn’t I will need to re-think the “presentation". Suggestions, as always, welcome. If you got this far...thank you!
Achieving Male Multiple Orgasms
Last night I found a good video talking about achieving the all elusive Male Multiple Orgasm and posted it on Escorts Forum. One of the members comments got me thinking...we need to find someone who really wants to give this a go who would be willing to share their experience of it. Then I expanded on this thought and have now posted the below request into our Trade and Exchange board (link below). I would love to hear from anyone interested.
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"Male Multiples have always fascinated me but I’ve never yet had opportunity to “work with someone” on it and I would like to. I would also like for the “findings” to be publishable. Honest, diary type account of how it went (or didnt).
And I dont just want to read about it, I’d like to be involved. Is anyone here interested in taking very seriously an attempt at achieving Male Multiples for himself, letting me along for the ride and you documenting it. I realise this is a big ask and offer is open indefinitely. I dont expect any hands to go up in any hurry.
One condition is that you are single. No money will exchange hands but you will presumably be based in Auckland and will need to have somewhere for us to meet because I dont.
We would need to be sure we are very comfortable with each other. Meet / talk / spend time first obviously. Platonic is fine. The exercises mentioned in the video are daily and will require real commitment from you. Hopefully you’d also properly read up on the subject prior. I suppose I expect you and I getting together once a week (? big question mark) would be enough that I could “follow progress” so to speak and would be available to you to “use” (you know what I mean) as you wish. Yes; sex, my hands, fingers, tongue, elbows...whatever you need from me."
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In ensuing discussion I have added that I expect getting together weekly (?) would be for a good 12-24 hours. I realise just working with one person will only cover so many bases but it would be a great start. Ultimately I want to learn how to help men achieve this.
Website: http://escortsforum.co.nz/escorts/index.php/t
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